tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545545571343273883.post8862637530618039863..comments2023-10-15T04:10:15.538-04:00Comments on Kitty Adventures: Lies about Sex I was taught Moonofsilverhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18072449731164255972noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545545571343273883.post-76385093913304277002014-10-21T15:38:14.681-04:002014-10-21T15:38:14.681-04:00I also used to be insecure about not having shaved...I also used to be insecure about not having shaved/prepped. And I believed, due to movies/books/TV, that everyone has a mind-blowing orgasm every time. I thought something was wrong with me. But did you know that a large portion of the female population simply can't have orgasms in their vaginas (only from the clitoris)?Robinhttp://lilac-mist.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545545571343273883.post-17660157393587207462014-06-24T09:42:17.789-04:002014-06-24T09:42:17.789-04:00I finally wore a really cute satin nightgown durin...I finally wore a really cute satin nightgown during my birthday weekend that I've owned for over a year. Basically I just never got around to wearing it as a sexy surprise because Beau doesn't care. He's also cool with my version of sexy underwear--lots of satin and lace, but nothing skimpy or uncomfortable--and he doesn't care if it's time to do laundry, and I'm wearing old cotton panties. I'm also really glad we engaged in other sexual activities prior to marriage because I needed that time to learn how to speak up for myself. I had internalized the same messages that you did, that sex is about a man's pleasure, even though I logically knew from all my feminist studies that it's supposed to be mutual. I had just read too many things about what not to say during sex or how to critique your partner without hurting his feelings, and all that stuff really just told me to keep quiet if something was uncomfortable. Luckily I got over that before we were married, because there is a LOT more necessary communication and physical adjustments for coitus. ;)Belle Viergehttp://www.findingmyvirginity.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545545571343273883.post-59406354735600341462014-06-22T08:51:13.231-04:002014-06-22T08:51:13.231-04:00thank you for your comment! Yes, I feel the same w...thank you for your comment! Yes, I feel the same way!Carolynnhttp://kitty-ears.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545545571343273883.post-84187794957711254282014-06-20T09:46:38.699-04:002014-06-20T09:46:38.699-04:00Thank you so much for sharing this! I also find my...Thank you so much for sharing this! I also find myself apologizing a lot to my boyfriend or feeling just not good enough or pretty enough or girly enough or ...the list goes on and on and on! Because I forgot to shave my legs or because I didn't shower that day or whatever. But in the end, he doesn't care if I smell or look weird or if my hair is greasy or whatever. I definitely need to start loving myself some more and realizing I don't need to apologize for not being like the actress in all those sex scenes that just look perfect.Blake Ghttp://oneeightyblog.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545545571343273883.post-27225131588400993072014-06-18T14:28:25.957-04:002014-06-18T14:28:25.957-04:00haha you kinda summed my husband up as well :Phaha you kinda summed my husband up as well :PCarolynnhttp://kitty-ears.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545545571343273883.post-83963722954935028382014-06-18T14:27:51.505-04:002014-06-18T14:27:51.505-04:00Hehe, I don't know if I was actually taught th...Hehe, I don't know if I was actually taught these things. But I saw myself acting them and realized I was believing some things that where not true. I think it's more like what I saw in media and also in other marriages as I was growing up. No one really taught me anything verbally, but I just thought these things. And now I realized they are wrong!Carolynnhttp://kitty-ears.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545545571343273883.post-25250513476253120312014-06-18T09:49:14.996-04:002014-06-18T09:49:14.996-04:00My husband loves me, and my excessive apologizing ...My husband loves me, and my excessive apologizing was ruining not only his mood, but mine as well as I felt sub-par. Sure, its nice to shave sometimes, and it's nice to put on something sexy, but it isn't a requirement for sex. http://sn.im/290xdj8CarmelitaMButlernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545545571343273883.post-18469275752220423212014-06-18T09:40:25.488-04:002014-06-18T09:40:25.488-04:00I wouldn't say I really knew or was taught any...I wouldn't say I really knew or was taught anything...And I'm totally comfortable with that. I did get married at 19 so it's not like I was an adult for long before bam--married! And learning by trial and error does work...maybe not immediately but eventually...at least I didn't really have any false preconceptions ahead of time...Rachel Ghttp://www.therandomwritings.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545545571343273883.post-16168005316602289872014-06-18T09:20:47.141-04:002014-06-18T09:20:47.141-04:00hah. i have learned that my husband doesn't ca...hah. i have learned that my husband doesn't care what i look/smell like, what time of the month it is, or what i'm wearing. (i don't even own a single piece of lingerie.) peppy's thoughts boil down to this, "i get to do my wife? game on! what are we waiting for?" i think a lot of women get carried away with the fact they have to be a certain way before and during sex. most men don't care. they are just excited to get laid.Deanna Fikehttp://delirious-rhapsody.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com